Love flows from our self-worth.  Therefore, Love is tied to how we see our own worth. If I don’t value myself, I can’t truly value you. This means that I can’t give you what I don’t have. So the value I show you will always mirror the value I hold for myself.  Therefore, the way I treat you will always be a reflection of how I view myself.

Flip the coin and you will see that people’s ability to love you flows from their self-worth.  Therefore, their ability to Love and express that love to you is tied to how they see their own worth.  If they don’t value themselves, they cannot truly value (love) you.  This means they CANNOT GIVE YOU what THEY DON’T HAVE.  so, the value (love) they show you mirrors the value (love) they hold for themselves.  Therefore, the way they treat you will always be a reflection of how they view themselves.  

Therefore, when there is a Love shortage, it stems from a value shortage within someone else.  Remember this, PEOPLE DO THE THINGS THEY DO BECAUSE OF THEM ~ NOT YOU! That means their behavior ~ good or bad~what they do or don’t do ~ say or don’t say ~ is ABOUT THEM ~ NOT YOU!!  Whose reflection is it in the mirror that you see when they are not being loving or kind with their words or behavior ~ it is their reflection  ~ not yours.  So no matter what they say to try to blame or project onto you ~ you don’t have to own it.  Their hearts are just tattle-taling on what is or isn’t going on at root level in their hearts.  Listen to how they are judging you  ~ because that is how they feel about themselves at heart / root level.  They are judging you based on how they feel about themselves in light of how they see themselves.  They just are not aware sometimes the real problem stems with them.  So, if they aren’t loving you well, sadly it’s because they haven’t learned how to love themselves well either.  

In conclusion I will repeat…No one (including you) is able to give what you don’t have.  If someone doesn’t have love, value, or respect for themselves, they will not know how to gift love to you nor will they truly know how to value who you are and treat you respectfully.  No matter what you do or don’t do, if they do not have value (love) for themselves you cannot do anything to make them value (love) you more.  It’s a heart issue that is between them and God.  The only thing you are able to do is to forgive them and pray for them to experience the Love of God to such a level that they find their value and worth, WHO THEY ARE in and Through His Eyes of Love.  Once they have encountered and experienced His deep love, discovered their worth, value and identity is 100% in who HE says they are, out of that love experience they will learn how to value (love) and respect you.  

Until then, they cannot give you what they do not have nor can they give you an loving experience with them until they have a love experience with God’s love.  They will be able to see you rightly and treat you rightly once they see themselves rightly through God’s eyes of love.  They will be able to treat you rightly once they experience the beautiful loving way God treats them.

So, remember, you keep being WHO God called you to be.  You are still WHO He says you are no matter what they think or say.  Only God’s view and opinion of you counts!  Only God’s definition of you and His definition of Love is the truth.  Pray for them to come to know Love Himself, experience Who He says they are and come to know the true definition of what LOVE really is.  Once they have experienced a Love relationship with God vertically they will know how to have a loving relationship with you horizontally.  

Heart2Heart in His Love,

Momo Smiley

 

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