Some people just don’t realize the level of heartwork you have done throughout the years and the extensive amount of healing you’ve done through it all. They don’t get it that you are not ever going back to the old you or old unhealthy relationship you had with them – not even for them.

Some people just don’t realize the level of heartwork you have done throughout the years and the extensive amount of good, wise lessons you have learned through it all. They don’t get it that the new you is not ever going to set yourself up for a repeat to get betrayed or treated that way again- not even with them.

Some people just don’t realize the level of PEACE, HEALING and FREEDOM you have experienced and worked so hard for through it all. Therefore, they do not accept or understand why you go to such great lengths to protect your PEACE, HEALING & FREEDOM having to set necessary healthy boundaries with them so as not to experience a repeat – even with them.

Some people just don’t realize their unhealed wounds and unresolved issues meddling in & disrupting your peace, etc. is not worth you losing your peace, etc. to carry on or entertain more of their interruptions of your peace, healing and freedom.

They don’t want to accept their unresolved, unhealed issues, sense of lack & deep insecurities ultimately fed into & led them to focus on & betray you instead of seeing & owning what needs to be addressed & healed in them

Love them from a safe relational distance and pray for them to face their woundedness & become aware of their log-filled blind spots, heal, become free and experience peace, too so they don’t keep going around hurting others like they did you with their unresolved hurt & hurtful behavior.

Forgive them. Their behavior is not about you no matter how much they try to make you feel like it was. Understand when they don’t want to look at and face their “stuff” they will say things to you insinuating that it’s all in your mind. They will try to play the victim, try to minimize, deny or change the narrative of the truth of what they did as if it’s in your imagination because they don’t want to own their full responsibility for the breakdown or loss of the relationship. They prove they are not emotionally intelligent and reveal their rebellious spirit refusing not to honor and respect your healthy wishes and boundaries.

Do NOT let them play with you. Hear Wisdom say, Don’t answer their foolishness... Proverbs 26:4-28

Proverbs 26:4-5. Don’t fall into being drawn into entertaining “more of the same” with them. Having conversations or interactions with someone who has a track record of not being trustworthy with your heart, betraying you or your confidences, choosing to use their power of choice to hurt you especially when you were already hurting is not wise. Instead, keep healing and move on pursuing your healing, peace and freedom. You can’t fix or heal them but you can pray they will turn to God and pursue healing, peace and freedom, as well.

I am sorry for what you have been through that wounded your heart, crushed & ended relationships and should have never happened to you; however, I am so proud of how you have partnered with God to pursue bringing something healthy and good to discover your new healthier, peaceful and free you. 

Heart2Heart in His Love,

Momo Smiley

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