You learn so much over the years about what makes a friendship healthy, holy, and forever~lasting. Wisdom begins to whisper to you in the quiet places, showing you the difference between connections that lift your heart like sunlight and ones that weigh your spirit down like a heavy storm cloud. Wisdom also reveals which connections are (emotionally) safe and which ones are not, gently teaching you that the difference between the two is always found in what Love is and what Love is not. And when Love opens your eyes, it becomes beautifully clear who belongs in your Love Tribe ~ who is ready for the inner Heart~Rooms of your life and who needs to linger in the softer outer spaces while Love Himself tends to their healing.
You can feel the truth of a friendship deep inside your own heart. Some people leave you feeling seen, heard, valued, and safe ~ like nothing you shared would ever be twisted, repeated, or used against you. With them, there is no pressure to perform or pretend. You can breathe. You can exhale. You can be fully yourself. You can rest in the sweet knowing that your heart is held gently and honored deeply. This is what Kingdom Love feels like. This is how Kingdom Lovers love. They love with tenderness, honor, respect, and safety. These are the ones who belong in the Living Room of Trust, where hearts sit close, conversations glow like warm light, and peace settles over you like a soft blanket.
And then there are the moments when you walk away from someone and you don’t shrink — you simply see. Love has taught you who you are, and once you know your worth in Christ, you no longer internalize someone else’s unloving behavior. Their tone, their reactions, their choices stop defining you and start revealing them. Their words become a mirror, a quiet tattle-taling of what is unhealed inside their heart, not yours. You no longer tiptoe or second~guess yourself, but you do pay attention. You notice when trust has been lost! You notice when someone’s behavior crosses from accidental mistakes into intentional choices — choices they knew were wrong, choices they knew would wound you if you ever found out, choices they made anyway. Whether it was speaking harshly, speaking about you behind your back, betraying your confidence, or mishandling your heart, they chose it. And Love helps you see the truth without losing your peace.
So you forgive ~ because your heart is anchored in Kingdom Love ~but you no longer offer the same access. You no longer hand them the keys to the inner rooms of your heart. Not out of punishment, not out of rejection, but out of wisdom. Out of protection. Out of honoring the sacredness of your own heart. They simply remain in the gentler Outer Courtyard of your heart for now ~ not because they are unwelcome, but because their hearts are not yet healed enough to hold yours safely. They are still on their journey, still needing to learn or still learning the ways of Love, still letting Love Himself untangle the knots inside them. And you genuinely want that healing for them ~ even if reconciliation is not possible ~ because healed hearts are free hearts.
Some people speak to you like you’re standing on a witness stand, being questioned, corrected, or charged with something you never did. Their tone carries accusation instead of compassion, pressure instead of peace. This is not Kingdom Love. Kingdom Love never interrogates your heart. Kingdom Lovers do not use their words to shame, belittle, or make you feel small. These are the ones who remain outside the Walls of Safety for a season or sometimes a lifetime ~ not because they are cast out, but because Love Himself is still softening their tone, healing their wounds, and teaching them how to speak life instead of out of their unhealed wounds, insecurities, etc.
And then there are the gossipers ~ the ones who whisper your private heart~stories to others. They shrink you to feel bigger. They expose you to feel important. Their insecurities and low sense of worth drive this unloving behavior. This is not Kingdom Love either. Kingdom Lovers protect your name, your stories, and your heart always. They keep your private stories locked in their heart’s vault and keep them safe for their whole lifetime. They cover you, not uncover you. Gossipers cannot yet be trusted with the Garden of Your Heart, not because they are rejected, but because they need healing before they can tend anything sacred from your heart again. This is loving wisdom.
Your heart deserves the kind of friendships where your reputation is safe even on your worst day. The kind where you never have to replay the conversation in the car afterward, hoping that sharing your “REAL” vulnerability with them won’t ever be mishandled. The kind where trust is so deep that the thought of betrayal never even crosses your mind. The kind where you leave lighter than when you arrived because their presence lifts you instead of draining you. These are the friends who belong in the Inner Sanctuary, where Love Himself dwells and where hearts are held with a beautiful, loving, sacred and holy reverence.
And for those who accuse, gossip, or wound ~ you forgive them as Love has forgiven you. You pray for them, not because their behavior was acceptable, but because you know they are hurting inside. You pray they let Love Himself heal their wounds so they do not keep wounding others. You pray they learn the ways of Kingdom Love so they never hurt another friend, another heart, or another soul in this way again. And even if reconciliation is not possible, you still want healing for them more than anything ~ because healed hearts are free hearts, and freedom is what Love longs to give them! I want healing for everyone, too.
A true, genuine, safe friendship never weighs heavy on your heart. It brings peace. It brings rest. It brings joy. It brings the feeling of being held in Love’s gentle hands. This is the fruit of Kingdom Love. This is the way Kingdom Lovers walk with one another ~ heart to heart, truth to truth, Love to Love, room to room in the House of Love.
May every friendship in your life be loyal and true, genuine and safe, trustworthy and tender, rooted in Love Himself and flowing Heart2Heart in the House of Love.
Heart2Heart in His Love,
Momo Smiley
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